A great point that my roommate made was to not be "too technical," especially when you're seeing someone new. You don't know them that well nor do they know you that well either. The only thing you can really work off of are first impression characteristics and even those don't do you much good either. Technicalities and overthought I think are due to the fact that our generation is consumed by technology. The tone of one's text message can be interpreted in fifteen and a half different ways. So the simplicity of saying, "Okay cool," can mean...
1) "Sounds good to me."
2) "Yah, I don't really care I'm kind of busy right now."
3) "Hahahaha I'm actually laughing at how pathetic you are!"
Aside from this, we also live in a world of instant gratification. No longer do we use the help of carrier pigeons to get our messages from point A to point B. We send texts, e-mails, instant messages hoping to get a response right away. We don't like to wait and when we do, we assume the worst. We bite our nails in angst, we're hostile to those around us because they aren't the ones we want to hear from. "Fuck you! Go away! I don't care that your grandmother is in the hospital! I'm waiting to hear back from the girl I really like! Wahhh." We're pathetic and childish. And when we can't wait we send vicious second texts saying, "K guess you didn't want to go to the movies," or "Don't worry, I get it!" And who knows, maybe they did want to wait to respond for a bunch of different reasons. Yes, there is that possibility that they didn't really want to go to the movies, they may have didn't even want to hang out in the first place. But there is also the possibility that they were waiting to hear back about other plans so they could pencil in a movie date with you or on the phone with family or even taking a shit. It's the truth!
In the case of the pathetic "no response" it's not your problem. If they don't get back to you, fuck 'em. Go to the movies with someone else. It's always good to have peeps on the side. And those things called friends? Yeah, well they were there wayyyy before you started seeing some dbag who's all about dem mind gamez. So take good ol' pals on some much-needed catching up and hot gossip.
All in all, the waiting game sucks in many different cases. Waiting to hear the test results of an X-ray, waiting to hear back from a potential employer, waiting for your dinner when you're fucking famished, waiting for your period like a teenie bopper, waiting for the results of that pregnancy test you just peed on, and of course waiting for that certain someone who you're just oh so confused about but still really, really like. It sucks but patience is a virtue. When you least expect it you'll get what you're looking for.
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